Now What You Say About Fam?

The Family Factor: Importance

While in the midst of a relationship we still have to deal with concerns and issues of our immediate family. The parents, siblings and those that were family before you got in a relationship with someone else. Depending on your closeness and attachment yields the level of interaction and importance of them in your life.

The subject matter is this: When is focusing on YOUR family a hindrance or important while you are in a relationship?

Is it wrong to feel and need to go help family in crisis while you are in a relationship?

Are there only an allotted number of times you can help family?

Or is there a need to have it cleared with the one you are with before it is considered?

Personally, I am not that close to my family, so when I feel the need to do something concerning them it is of importance. Yet, when I did voice this I found the individual I was with to actually tell me that “it wasn’t important and I needed to stay and work on us.” Now this attitude and demeanor shocked me but also put things into perspective. If the person you are with doesn’t find family important enough to consider a request like this, what does that say about the importance to a family is to them? Hell, the importance of a family with them?

So with all this said. I ask you.

What’s the real deal?